Your Place, Her Place, or a Hotel? We Analyze the Advantages and Disadvantages

One of the worst experiences I’ve ever had in my fling dating career is completely forgetting where to plan the destination in which sex would take place. I met this chick on XXXMatch.com and the date was going great. She was definitely into me and I wanted to bang her so badly. However, I made a costly mistake. I had no exit strategy planned. I completely forgot to plan ahead where I would take her to fuck. It wouldn’t have been such a big deal if she was able to host, but because of certain circumstances, that was not possible.


I couldn’t bring her back to my place because – at the time – I was just crashing on my friend’s couch. I was trying to save up some money and just needed a temporary place to live. Obviously, I didn’t tell her this because it would have made me seem pathetic. So I told her my roommate was throwing a party and so we couldn’t come back to my place. Like I said, I was short on funds so going to a hotel wasn’t an option. What I should have done was to first find out if her place was a viable option or ask a friend if I could use their house for the evening, before going out. I didn’t do this and it was a lesson learned. But that still brings up the question, “how do you decide where to have sex?”…

Fling dating

Fling dating

The Advantages of Each Location

Your Place: It’s your own bed and you know the place. I feel more comfortable having sex in my own bed. That’s just the way I am. I like my bed, I like having sex in my bed. And sometimes I don’t feel comfortable going back to the home of someone I’ve never met.

Her Place: She will feel more comfortable if it’s in her own bed. She doesn’t have to worry about you having psycho roommates. She knows her place and probably prefers having sex in her own bed.

Hotel: It’s a neutral location. And it’s a great place to have sex if both of you have poor living situations (i.e. the example above). Plus, if you find a nice hotel, the bed may be even comfier than yours or hers.

Comfortable having sex

Comfortable having sex

The Disadvantages of Each Location

Your Place: She may feel uncomfortable going back to the home of someone she’s met. Or possibly you don’t have a favorable living situation for bringing chicks back to have sex with.

Her Place: She may be uncomfortable bringing a random guy back to her place. Some women don’t want you to know where they live. Or her living situation is not conducive to bringing fuck buddies over.

Hotel: Hotels are not free! If you’re on a budget and can’t afford one, this isn’t a viable option.

Fuck buddies

Fuck buddies