A Female Xpress.com Member Explains How Average Men Can Get Laid Online

I’ve written many advice articles on how to get laid online, but I thought it would be nice to get a female’s point of view. So I had a phone conversation with a long-time Xpress.com member that was willing to share some advice for men that struggle to get laid. You need to read this article. She makes some very good points and explains specifically what she is looking for. To hide her actual identity, we’ll just call her “TenderKisses69”, which I know will make her laugh!


Me: You’ve been using Xpress.com since 2011. What exactly are you trying to get out of the site and have you found it?

TenderKisses69: I’m really just looking for sex. I’ve been married twice and have no interest in getting remarried any time soon. Have I found what I’m looking for yet? Yes and no. I’ve hooked up with a few guys I met on here, but the problem is none of those relationships have lasted more than a few weeks. Had some pretty good sex though!

Tender Kisses 69

Tender Kisses 69

Me: You’re an attractive woman. Why don’t you just walk into a bar and meet guys? Why bother with online dating?

TK69: Drunk guys don’t do anything for me and since I’m now in my 30’s, the whole bar scene is behind me. That was fun back in College, but I really don’t care to meet some random drunk stranger for sex. Plus, I can screen guys out better online.

An attractive woman

An attractive woman

Me: Understandable. You say you can “screen guys out” online. What do you mean by that?

TK69: I don’t ever have to actually speak to a guy without knowing something about him. I just read his profile and decide if he’s even worth my time.

Me: What do you look for from a guy when viewing his profile? Is it mostly looks?

TK69: I won’t lie to you, I am a visual creature. I am more inclined to open up his profile if I like his picture. But looks aren’t everything. In fact, they’re not even the most important. It’s the whole body of work. If his profile makes me laugh and he seems like a fun guy, I’d like to get to know him even if he’s not necessarily my type physically.

Me: What type of advice you would have for guys online that don’t know how to attract a woman?

Attract a woman

Attract a woman

TK69: I could literally go on for days answering this question. The basic stuff is to be interesting and not perverted. Seriously, I get so sick and tired of all the perverted guys. If he’s hot as hell, I won’t sleep with him if he’s a pervert. I know that sounds weird, but like I said, I’m more attracted to personality than looks. And so are most of my girlfriends.